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In The Defining Decade,  Meg Jay portrays a dating metaphor, which a client told her about, that really hits deep. The client said that dating in your twenties was like musical chairs. Everyone is having fun and dating around, but once you hit 30, the music stopped and everyone starting sitting or settling down. The client felt like the only one left without a chair, and this is a harsh reality. By your late twenties, it will seem that all your friends are settling down and getting married and there is a massive fear that you will be left behind. There is a large amount of pressure for people to be married by the time they reach their thirties and I think this is both a good and bas thing. Yes, it is important to search for the person who you will spend the rest of your life with, but you definitely don't want to end up running out of time and settling with the person you're with, when you know they're not the right one. Many people fall into this trap and marry the closest...

In recent years, psychology has become one of the top or most popular major among any campus. It is often perceived as an "easy" major that ultimately will not benefit you in the long run. Or people believe that the only path psychology leads to is being a psychologist or some type of therapist. However, these perceptions are all wrong. The Psychology Major's Companion lists all of the skills and benefits of getting an undergraduate degree in psychology. Some examples of this are: recognizing and fostering diversity, taking a creative and skeptical approach to problem solving, communicating effectively, and applying psychological principles to numerous different areas in our everyday lives. Nicky Hayes , who has a PhD in Psychology, lists several skills obtained from majoring in psychology. A few of them include: trained to write in more than one literacy format, highly numerate, computer literate, environment awareness, research skills, etc.  Psychology basically prepar...

The question of "what do you want to do with your life?" can be extremely overwhelming and frustrating for most college students, but it honestly should be. What we want to spend the rest of our lives doing is an important decision and most people, including me, get scared even thinking about it. However, college is the time to decide who and what we want to be. Even though people tell you that there is plenty of time to figure things out, that is just not the case. In the beginning, it is essential to keep your options open and find what you're passionate about, but there comes a point where time starts running out and you need to make an executive decision about your life. The Defining Decade , by Meg Jay, discusses an idea called the jam experiment. The experiment consists of 2 separate scenarios where jam suppliers let customers taste 6 flavors of jam at one stand and 24 flavors at another stand. The stand with 24 flavors attracts more customers because there is so ma...